30 th November - 5 o clock in the morning in Abu Dhabi...
Heavy wind at the balcony from my hotel room at 18th floor facing the see, having a first cup of coffee:
I am preparing for checking out at 6.30 am flying back to Germany at 9.10 am with the wonderful airline ETIHAD , where I recieved the status of being a Gold Member in spring 2011 for loyal booking and flying thousands of miles back and forth from UAE to germany and vice versa.
Behind me are ten days challenging meeting preparations, table talks and personal introductions for two executive board members from LMM / Liechtenstein .
LMM – a company with a truly needed comtrolling service in these days:
Experienced experts, offering Investment controlling for their clients, independent, worldwide neutral money monitoring and reporting service . LMM is consulting and controlling, independent from Banks - wich is a true added value not only for prospective clients in the arab part of the world, also for worldwide highnet individuals, institutional investors, companies, goverment, pension funds or private family offices.
In all five years of my bridgebuilding communication in business and sports, I identified this special niche service so far as the greatest added value for financial affairs: by creating with the controlling and the independent consulting, more safety and more transparency, discovering bank faults and negative developments, comparing bank performances, saving money , securing sustainable wealth and contributing to the progress of the actual nervous bank times.
It had been a very interesting business trip .
But furthermore this last visit to Abu Dhabi in 2011 had been unforgettable for me in other ways too. I had been accompanied from my 24 year old daughter Theresa, who had lived here in Abu Dhabi and Ajman for nine years as well – a dedicated and talented, stylish show jumper with wins and placings in germany and UAE till the highest jumping competitions, who finished recently successfully her studying with the Bachelor of Arts in International Management.
She had been so much looking forward for her journey in the weeks before. Theresa met a lot of friends from UAE, Saudi- Arabia and Qatar again and you could see her face smiling - when she had been asked , considering coming back to Abu Dhabi one time for working in global communication or alternatively finishing her studies with the Master Degree . So it had been great to stay with her in our 2nd home country again and after my meetings finished, we explored some former famous places ( like the Hilton - Corniche ), where she used to swim as small kid after school , end of the nineties.
She is so kind and beautiful , but wherever we attend together, they consider us as sisters or friends.
Alwayas when Theresa called me "Mama" , they watched at us and not believed , so we had great fun with that. In general it had been such a special, rare time for both of us, coming back together, a time which we will keep in our hearts each november.
- On the other side, I faced again the most disappointing ( european ) former business partner , I dealt with since my Office founding in 2005. If you are following the news regulary, you may recognize that I am an extremely motivated positive and hard working, focussed person, (and not at all into gossip), who always want to reach the maximum for the business partners, never giving up – cause business development is always an up and down. Or like a puzzle, where you have to add constantly a lot of small stones together , approaching and identifying the right people from Abu Dhabi /UAE, which are open and enthusiastic and who had been asked from me, if they are wiling to help, to give additional inputs and using there influence and (inner - family) relations within Abu Dhabi as well to make it happen.
If in the end the european did finally reach the aim, signing in Abu Dhabi , and then “this partner and friend” trying to keep the initial initiator of important key table talks, where introduction had been made - later in the dark with reduced or delayed communication or playing games and doing really everything , NOT to pay the agreed amount, you think you are in a bad movie.
Who ever dealt with businesspartners, who are breaching given words and clear agreements, moreover fraudulent breach of contracts – trying to fool others , arranging "settlements" , based on lies - you will definetly understand what I am talking about .
There is a saying in the arabic world : A given word is a given word.
Maybe this "Gentleman" is only one of an example for unethical behaviour , which happens every day in the business world in all countries. But in general some of them, who acted opportun and not correct and whos pockets are now filled with a lot of money for the next years, will regret later in life, what they have done with good and rare true loyal partners. Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe at 24th of December 2012. Maybe in a couple of years.
But one fact is sure: they have to look every day in the mirror.
If you not respect others, and only take and not give in true FAIR PLAY, you will be not respected and not considered as correct also from others. So time will come. You always see each other twice in life. But to appoint lawyers, filing a case or considering going to court means spending good energy and money for negative topics and wasting time for people, who not deserves you. Especially it hurts- if you did an outstanding bridge building job , initiate a lot of first initial meetings to set the fire and awareness , creating a dynamic and bringing more supporters in good sprit in the same boot, again like in a puzzle – and then in the moment of his success - you discover the true face and bad character of the “partner”.
For lawyers nothing unusual - just like daily bred.
But I am not a lawyer and I just want to treat people, with all my respect and in fairness .
A given word is a given word in the arabic world. In germany you may call it: "Ehrbarer Kaufmann"
For me a dream, who became reality - is not anymore excisting - a dream - became a nightmare for me.
I stated one time in a magazine (see Media) : "I am not important, my work is important" - which means I do not have "EGO" - but if good work is very successful, you have to stand for YOUR success and to ask for your right, standing to what both agreed in GIVEN WORDS and agreements. Trust, Loyality and Fairness are key elements in dealing with each other.
Not more not less - just what once had been agreed in the beginning.
However this special story in life will end - I leave today Abu Dhabi with good emotions : One reason is coming back to the persons I love dearly, preparing for christmas , decorating the tree with the kids, going to church with my family and looking forward to 2012 with the inner feeling that in these days in Abu Dhabi one of the most promising, innovative future projects was born and a phantastic new concept had been created in our discussions.
The wind still not better , so I expect a turbulent flight back to Frankfurt and afterwards heading to Berlin to the UAE embassy for the UAE national Day. Celebrating 40 years Spirit of the Union.
UAE National Day 40 years SPIRIT OF THE UNION
Whole Abu Dhabi is prepared for the UAE National Day with lights and laser shows, huge national flags everywhere, and for example 40 UAE cakes and 40 dates decoration baskets placed in the lobby of the Emirates Palace Hotel, Pins and T-Shirt s are printed, all newspaper are reporting about the full development of the nation till today.
The UAE National Day is an important day for all of us. Cause the country has prospered and developed remarkably in the last 40 years. The national integrity, the pace of economic development, the geographical strategic position and the visions of the rulers, places UAE among the most rapidly developing countries in 21st centuries.
Wishing the very best to UAE in its future pursuits of achievements. I am a very committed person, that’s why travelling to Berlin straight away to join the UAE National Day Reception in germany at the beautiful UAE embassy is without any question a pleasure.